Deaf Hearing Boy: A Memoir
by R.H. Miller
From the back cover of the 2004 trade paperback first edition (Gallaudet University Press):
Born in 1938, R.H. Miller was the oldest of four hearing boys born to deaf parents in Defiance, Ohio, a small agricultural community in Ohio. Millers paternal grandparents, who also were hearing, owned a small dairy farm. In following the educational practices of the day, they sent their deaf son, Millers father, to a residential school for deaf students, where he met and married a deaf girl when both were still in their teens. Deaf Hearing Boy is Millers compelling account of the complex dynamics at work in his family, including the intergenerational conflicts in which he found himself, the oldest child of deaf adults (CODA), caught in the middle.
In 1942, Millers family moved to Toledo so that his father could find work. There, they fared well during World War II because his father worked in manufacturing as a member of Roosevelts civilian army. Millers mother loved urban life, where she and the family could immerse themselves in the Toledo Deaf community, especially at the Toledo Silent Club. The end of the war marked the end of prosperity for the Miller family. Returning soldiers displaced all of the deaf workers, who then had to scrape for a living. The Millers, close to destitution, returned to the family farm in Defiance.
Miller depicts the return to farm life as one of tremendous hardship, both economically and psychologically. They lived off the land from hand to mouth. He also describes his grandparents distrust of his parents because they were deaf, and he writes candidly of his role as an unwilling agent in the misunderstandings between them. Miller also portrays the bias he endured in school and town. Parents of girlfriends would force their daughters to stop dating him for fear that his familys deafness would be passed down.
In the early 1950s, Millers grandparents rented the farm and his parents returned to industrial work. Miller excelled at school, and eventually left home for college and life in academia. His later reflections reveal a deep, abiding respect for his parents, despite his early difficulties. Deaf Hearing Boy presents an intimate depiction of a changing time for hearing and deaf Americans alike, when the family farm disappeared and the isolation of Deaf people also began to fade. In witnessing this transformation of society through his familys life, Miller adds an important chapter to the collective narrative of Deaf people, one made all the more poignant and vivid as told by their Deaf Hearing Boy.
R.H. Miller is Emeritus Professor of English, recently retired from the English and Humanities programs, at the University of Louisville, KY.